November is almost over, which means my goal of adding a specific habit for the month of November is almost over, too.
If you recall, I talked about this idea in this post.
I have really enjoyed focusing on just ONE THING for a month. I chose to start with “adding” a good habit (versus subtracting a bad one). My habit of choice was to get outside for 20 minutes every single day.
And I have done it! Most days this has involved a walk outside, but there were a handful of days that I just went in the hot tub instead (outside). Still outside, still counts! Looking up at the stars in the quiet, dark night, from the hot tub, while breathing in crisp November air definitely still refreshes my spirit.
I think keeping this goal really simple and quite small has been key. At this stage in my life (BUSY + lots of variety in my days), doing anything every single day feels rather challenging. I feel sort of silly saying this, because I see a lot of other people doing things every single day, apparently without much difficulty. (?) Or at least that’s the impression I get. Maybe I’m just a weakling who lacks discipline.
But I don’t know, my life just feels so all over the place right now. We do a lot, the kids are busy, we have family here often, meaning my evenings are never really the same, and even my bedtime can be all over the place. Super early mornings don’t feel guaranteed anymore either. Some days, yes, others, not so much. But if we are up late doing something/ out/ etc., I can’t count on the 5 a.m. window as being reliable (unless I severely cut my sleep, but that’s never a good idea). I love the idea of 100% routine and consistency, but it just feels impossible right now.
Anyway, fitting in 20 minutes outside at some point in my day felt generally very doable though. And since it was the only thing I “had” to do, it really wasn’t that hard to push to make it happen.
In the past, I think I’ve tried to do too many good things at once “every day”- read, exercise, walk, etc. And while I did still do many of those things this month, I didn’t do them all every single day. The only thing I really focused on was getting outside.
I liked this method! I feel accomplished, even though it has only been a small win.
Next month, December, I’m going to do it again. But I may try to “subtract” something instead this time. Not sure what yet.
I’m toying with the idea of maybe subtracting out scrolling on my phone in bed when I first wake up. I am not specifically against this habit- it can be a relaxing way to ease myself awake. I don’t have a particular like, moral stance on it or anything.
But I have been frustrated then that I end up getting up too late, which eats into my already-too-short morning window. So while I don’t particularly mind the email checking/ blog reading/ Facebook checking etc from bed, I do mind that it is encroaching on other things I’d rather do MORE. Because my little sliver of quiet morning time is pretty sacred to me- but the lying in bed on my phone part is not the part I actually enjoy. I enjoy being at my desk, with my tea, my planner, my journal, a book, or this blog.
On an unrelated note, I ran across this screenshot yesterday as I cleaned out some photos from last year:
Not sure #1 is totally fair, but I think #2-4 are pretty great points! I especially love #3. And #4 is so true.
And since we’re on totally unrelated notes, how about another one: how adorable is this picture of baby Asher???? 😍
I am grateful that I have a new partner for my volunteer coordinating job for the swim team!! So happy to have some HELP.