Coco asked me yesterday how I’m planning to track “family” or “fun” activities (one of my goals for 2022).
My planner (the Wonderland 222) has these quarterly pages in the front of the planner (see above).
Last year, I didn’t really end up using these pages too much. The monthly boxes are obviously quite small (and there are full sized monthly pages later in the planner where I actually do my real planning).
I did kind of use the grid pages last year (right side) to track some of my yearly goals that came up monthly (like, make a new recipe 1x/month-there’s space here to jot down “new recipe= _________” and fill in what I made that month. Or I can make little checkboxes there for “cooked with the boys”, for example (goal to cook with them at least 20 times this year) and X them off.
But I decided to use the monthly boxes on the left to track “quality time” this year. Obviously I don’t write down everything we do together. As the boys are older now, it’s surprisingly easy (and sad) to find that if we aren’t careful, whole days can pass that we don’t really DO anything much together! I mean, we’re here, we’re technically together- but they don’t need me to give them a bath anymore. I don’t have to rock them to sleep, and no one asks me to play choo choo trains anymore.
I don’t want to fall into the trap of sort of “growing apart”, if that makes sense? Not that I think we really will. We’re a close family and we do spend plenty of time together. But I just think as they’re entering the teen years now, we should probably pay extra close attention to this.
So this is how it looks currently. I’m not 100% at filling this out, and some of these items seem random… (“Vet with Ethan”, for example. But I counted that as quality time! We got the hamster ready to go together, rode there together, talked the whole way, etc.)
In order to make it on here, it needs to be an activity or time when we weren’t really doing anything else- just focusing on the shared activity/ each other. Or it needs to include at least a majority of focused time. (Example- Asher’s swim meets. I’m not with him the whole time, but we are “together” a lot. Before, during breaks between his events, usually a meal together after, etc. Lots of conversation and what I consider quality time.)
Of course, there are other times too that I don’t record…for example, breakfast every morning is a good chunk of time for us. We have the news on, we talk, the kids eat, I putter around with dishes, etc. That’s always a nice little moment of connection for us. Or riding to/from lessons, sports in the car. But I’m trying to use this grid to keep track of other activities that are a little more above and beyond just totally normal daily activities.
I’m hoping to get back into reading more with the boys!! We used to read every.single.night together and that was a very solid, recurring “quality” activity for us. But now that they’re older, it’s much more rare….and that’s sad. They are still willing- we just need to make it happen. (So I can add it to my calendar grid. 😆)
I checked out all of the books below from the library- we’re planning to start reading them tonight! T-17 days til our trip. Need to brush up on our Roman history. 😉 (The “Who Was” series is so great!! Simple and quick to read, but still totally informative even for older kids and/or adults! We’ve read so many of these over the years.)
I am grateful for lotion. My skin gets soooo dry this time of year…