This is definitely the “busy season” for many people, especially moms. You hear a lot about it….every year is the same. Everyone is stressed and harried and HAVING FUN and MAKING MEMORIES, people! 🙂
I’m guilty, too. I’m busy. I have a long to do list. It feels overwhelming. Some things are “want to dos”, for sure. (It is not a life requirement to bake Christmas cookies, for example. A fun and nice tradition, YES! But not required to continue living. 😉 Also, it’s definitely not required to print a card with the same pictures your friends and family probably already saw on Facebook, and then mail it to them. But I still like making them! Mostly because I like to keep my own card. hehe.)
I am also guilty of very much blurring the lines between the “want to do” category and the “must do” category.
I feel a general sense of responsibility for maintaining all the holiday traditions at our house. Because, honestly, Ivan would NOT do like 99% of the stuff I do around Christmastime (or any holiday). It’s just not something he really cares about at all. If we didn’t put up a single Christmas decoration, I don’t think he would even notice, much less care.
We have actually had conversations about this. “If I ever die while the kids are still young and home, please promise me that you will still decorate for Christmas and do all the Christmas traditions they are used to!!” His response is usually along the lines of, “How about don’t die and you keep doing it.” Hahaha.
I saw this podcast episode mentioned yesterday and listened to it, and I LOVED the point that choosing to not do something one year doesn’t mean you can never do it again or that you are abolishing that tradition. What a freeing thought.
Example- maybe I usually try to give very special/ personalized gifts, but this year we have had a garage and bedroom remodel going on. So, maybe this one year I just give myself the grace to say, “GIFT CARDS!” or whatever. Doesn’t mean that I am a forever “gift card giver” if I do it one year. Or even two! We can pick and choose what we do based on the current circumstances of our lives.
Bad Moms Christmas
This whole topic always makes me think of the movie Bad Moms Christmas, which is fricking hilarious. I re-watched it last Christmas while wrapping gifts.
One of my favorite scenes is when the moms are talking about how stressful the holidays are, and Kiki (Kristen Bell) says:
“Sometimes, when I’m driving by myself, I have this fantasy that I get into a car crash. Not a big one, with fire and explosions, but just like a little one….but I DO get injured and I get to go to the hospital for two weeks, and I sleep all day and I eat Jell-o and I watch so much TV, and it’s all covered by my insurance! My kids bring me balloons, and the nurses rub cream on my feet, and oh, my God, it’s so amazing. Is that, like, something you guys fantasize about, too?”
HAHAHA! This just cracks me up. I can’t say I’ve ever actually wanted to go to the hospital, but I sometimes feel like I might like to get just a little bit sick. Like the type of illness where you aren’t “really” sick, but you feel just under the weather enough that you get to lounge in bed and watch movies and everyone sort of feels sorry for you and leaves you alone for a day or two. 🙂
Watch the video clip!! So funny!
I am grateful for how wonderful and plush our new bedroom carpet feels under my bare feet when I get up in the morning.