I saw a post yesterday that was talking about “things we model for our kids”, whether we realize it or not. It made me pause and think for a minute about some of them.
I don’t think parents need to add MORE pressure to themselves, as in “oh my gosh, my kids are watching, I need to be perfect!!” But it seems reasonable to at least keep this in mind, and be aware that our actions might be our kids’ very best teacher. (And, if we screw up- we can just use that as an opportunity to model humility/ forgiveness/ admitting our mistakes! 😆)
Some examples they listed were:
- relationships with technology
- how we deal with frustration
- how we solve problems
- how we take care of ourselves
- how we apologize and repair
- how we ask for help
- how we handle mistakes
- how we navigate conflict
- how we approach differences
- how we care for animals
- how we care for our environment
- how we listen
Then I got thinking, on an even broader scope…things like:
- how we approach gift giving!
- how we manage our family finances
- how we handle household chores/ labor division between mom and dad
- how we spend our free time/ leisure time
- our standards of neatness or cleanliness (or even hygiene!)
- what we do when faced with situations of truth vs. lie
- our standards for what it means to complete a task or job- when is it “done”?
- how we treat the busboy at the restaurant, the lady mopping the floor, etc.
- our own personal integrity- do we do what we said we would? why or why not? Do we hold ourselves accountable?
- how much value we place on traditions (ex. holidays!)
- how do we interact in conversations? Do we always interrupt others? Or are we good listeners?
- do we default to complaining, or finding the positive?
- do we always leave a place better than we found it, or will “someone else clean it up”?
ETCETRA! I’d never really stopped to think too much about this before. I mean, obviously I know the kids learn from us, and I frequently try to talk them through “life skills”/ how to be a good human. But I’m probably on autopilot in some areas.
I especially like the one about “how we use technology”- how many of us are staring at our phones all day, and then wonder why our kids think it’s normal for them to stare at a phone all day?
The good news is, I think overall I’m a pretty good person who behaves (generally) in a pretty good way! So, hopefully the boys are picking up more good habits than bad. haha. But it’s definitely something to think about. How can I model more acts of service? Generosity? Integrity? Positivity? Etc.
(I’m not sure if this is all true though- I mean, I never, ever leave toothpaste in the sink, but the kids don’t seem to get the memo there.. just sayin’. 😁)
I am grateful for gloves. It is COLD this week.