Yesterday morning I experienced two back-to-back situations that left me feeling disappointed in humanity. I know there are endless examples of beautiful and amazing humans out there, and I generally prefer to focus on them. But I had a hard time shaking this!
Due to the impending snowstorm, I decided to make a quick grocery store run Saturday a.m. On the way there, I swung through a local drive-thru to grab a drink. I pulled up to the speaker, and as I finished placing my order, I glanced over at the couple in the car next to me (at the other speaker). I noticed the (late-20s? aged) woman in the passenger seat was rolling down her window. She then reached down to the car’s cup holder, grabbed an empty iced coffee cup (complete with the lid and straw) and proceeded to casually DROP IT OUT THE WINDOW. Onto the drive thru parking lot ground. Her boyfriend/husband guy apparently had no problem with this, either, and didn’t bat an eye.
My eyes were bugging out of my head. WHAT?! I literally cannot imagine doing that. Who on EARTH did she think was going to pick that up??? My mouth dropped open and I inched my car forward and like, glared at her…(hoping my face portrayed, “What the heck did you just do?? I SAW YOU.”). It took all my strength to not go yell at her to pick up her garbage this very instant. But, people are crazy these days, so, it’s just too risky. Don’t want to get shot over a coffee cup. 🙂
25 minutes later, inside the grocery store….
I was heading down an aisle with a few people in it. Toward the end, on the left hand side, a gentleman was parked in a scooter, browsing the spices or something (essentially blocking half of the aisle). As I approached, a woman wheeled around the corner, trying to go in the opposite direction I was. Due to the man in the scooter, there was only one side open, for one person to squeeze through. I was already part way into the space, so it would have made more sense for me to just hurry on through. But, trying to be nice, I stopped my cart, backed way up to give her plenty of space to get past me, smiled (with my eyes…wearing a mask 🙂 ) and waved her forward. “Go ahead!”, I said in what I thought was a very friendly voice.
She completely ignored me, didn’t make eye contact, and just walked right past me. No smile, no thanks, nothin’. 🙁
Obviously, I didn’t need her to bow down and kiss my feet for letting her go past me, but it just seemed very rude and ungrateful, since I very evidently went out of my way for her.
I guess I’m that person who waves if you let me go ahead of you at a 4 way stop, or the person who apologizes if I need to step in front of you, or the person who “runs” a little to cross the street (while waving “thanks!”) if you stop your car for me to cross.
(I was especially horrified by the blatant disregard for the littering in #1. The other woman’s poor manners just kind of irked me.)
I decided to turn both of these into the best positive that I could, and used them as “teaching moments” for the boys. I went home and relayed the stories to them and we talked about how each situation could have been handled differently. Thank goodness, I’m very confident that they already knew this. May no child of mine ever be caught littering in a fast food restaurant parking lot.
To quote my husband one more time this weekend, in response to my animated retelling of what I viewed as very poor adult behavior…..“Well, YOU just keep doing the right thing. That’s all we can really do!” Yep.
In the afternoon, we went to the nature preserve by our house for a winter walk. It hit the spot. The cold, fresh air, walking in the snow…perfection. By the end, I had completely forgotten about the morning’s annoyances.
I am grateful for shovels, snowblowers, car scrapers…all the stuff you need to deal with winter weather. 🙂