Good Thursday morning! Today is technically the kids’ school week Friday, since they don’t have school tomorrow for Good Friday.
|We got a gorgeous morning for our walk before school yesterday! We decided to lengthen it a little bit and walked through the park.|
Thoughts on self-perception:
Something else that I really got thinking about last night, randomly, was the idea of how we perceive ourselves. Asher really likes to draw, and has been creating these “fold out” images based on something he saw online.
Unlike Asher, Ethan really dislikes drawing. In fact, he really doesn’t like anything art related at all. Asher likes to create things and I know we have often used the word “artistic” to describe him. We have never said that about Ethan…
I know we all have different strengths and interests. But I notice that Ethan seems to define himself already as “someone who is not good at art”. The more I think about it though, I do the exact same thing!
*I’m not creative
*I’m not good at math
*I’m not much of a leader
*I can’t start a blog…why would anyone read it?
*I don’t know how to do (insert whatever seems overwhelming at the time)
These are all things I have said about myself repeatedly over the years.
Why do we do this?? Maybe I’m not an “artist” in the traditional sense, but I AM creative! I am creating blog posts right now. I created a super fun story about my son last year from the vantage point of his hamster (the parents had to write a “brag” letter and I chose that format). I created a “magazine” article for my other son’s letter this year and made it look like Sports Illustrated- it turned out really cool. I have created unique Christmas gifts for my family. I have written beautiful, detailed trip reports about our family vacations. I CAN create things!
These “beliefs” about ourselves are so hard to shake though! They seem so deep seeded that they just feel like TRUTHS. They aren’t though! I need to keep working on re-framing these in my own life and recognizing the falsehoods in them. I also need to be better about actively working on nipping these in the bud with my own boys, as much as we can, and helping them to push beyond these self imposed limits.
I am grateful for my education. The social distancing and school closures have made me think about how grateful I am to have had a full education myself, as well as the ability to continue on to a college education.